Wednesday, May 26, 2010

What I'm looking for...

I've been meaning to write down the traits I want in my future husband as I think it is a good excercise to help yourself not settle. (Especially if you are like me and tend to pick the wrong guy, repeatedly.) Here is my list. I know it's a lot, but it's good to start high and then "settling" will still land me a pretty good guy... right?

1. Love God
2. Love his family
3. Make me laugh
4. Laugh at all my crazy stories
5. Think it's "cute" that I fall down a lot, not weird :)
6. Attractive (at least to me)
7. Want to have children
8. Willing to volunteer or serve somewhere in the world someday
9. Works out
10.Takes care of himself
11.Has a job (seriously, I have to put this on here!)
12.Knows how to change a tire, check my oil, basically remind me to maintain my car
13.Doesn't mind I play Sorority Life on Facebook
14.Likes "Friends" or at least doesn't hate it
15.Knows how to calm me down when I get frustrated, without making me more upset
16.Loves animals (or at least likes my cat and wants a dog one day)
17.Likes roller coasters
18.Likes water parks
19.Doesn't think I'm crazy to be in counseling, but thinks it's cool I want to better myself
20.Likes me just as I am, and wouldn't change a thing about me

Obviously, I really want to fall in love, get married, and enjoy life with my best friend by my side. I don't know if this will happen for me, but I have not given up hope. I still want to be single this year, but I wanted to make this list so I know just what I'm waiting for.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Happy Mother's Day

Being a parent is the most important job here on this earth. I am not a parent yet, but I am a child and one day I hope to be a parent to my child(ren). In church today I learned a bit more how important this job of parenting really is. There are fazes in our life that we will all go through. It starts with eploration. These are the years you need to feel like the world is a safe place and Mom and Dad will always love you and have your back.

When these years have been compromised due to divorce, violence, abandament, etc. the child becomes wounded and when this happens it is very hard to get back that sense of safety. While these wounds can be overcome, wouldn't it just be easier to not scar our children in the first place? I know that no one is perfect, but loving your child is the purist and closest thing to perfection they will know in this world. Life happens, but don't let whatever is going on in your life ever affect how you love your child. Each day they need to know they are special, and treasured, and if anything happens to them, coming home to Mom and Dad will always be the safest place in the world.

I come from one of those broken families. I am working hard to overcome all the wounds that plunged deeply into my soul during those oh so important years. But, I do know now that I have a mom who loves me deeply and is there for me when life is easy and when life is hard. Now, I also have a step-dad to provide me the love and safety I missed for all those years. I thank God for my family each day, and that He heals my wounds and restored the broken family I was brought into. Through His love and the lessons I have learned, I will strive to make my child(ren) feel loved and supported and safe every day of their life. To all you moms out there, hug your child(ren) extra tight today. I know it is a day for you, and you deserve it, but it should never be taken lightly, because as I said before, there is no job more important than being a parent!

Happy Mother's Day!!